I am still a little self-conscious of the fact that Mr. G and I have been engaged for two years. Two years?! This long waiting period wasn't intentional. We hoped to be married quickly. But around every corner, life seemed to get in the way.
Back in May 2007, I was newly engaged and thinking about a simple, small wedding. Enter: family, expectations, visions of a beautiful, elegant wedding, and every last detail that goes into the planning and execution of "one perfect day". Our loved ones wanted a big wedding at a fancy venue. They wouldn't take "no" for an answer. So we set the date for November 15, 2008 and hastily booked our venue; our most expensive vendor (by far).
One clause in the venue contract scared me. "In the event of a cancellation, party owes the entire cost of the event in full." Brutal. But, at the time, we never imagined anything would go wrong.
Then enter the failing economy, lost jobs, and health-related issues. By July 2008 there were so many negatives weighing against us that we knew that we couldn't pull off the wedding by November. Luckily, there was a postponement clause in our contract. We couldn't cancel our event completely, but we could postpone it without a penalty fee. Whew. We made the difficult decision of delaying the wedding from November 2008 to June 2009. I recall feeling helpless and sad.
There have been a few not-so-fun situations resulting from the postponement. Couples who weren't even together when we got engaged two long years ago have gotten married before us. Friends and relatives, wondering if the wedding is on or off, sheepishly ask, "So, when's the wedding?" A lot of people asking why we postponed. I'm a private person. Do I owe them an explanation? I guess in some ways, I do.
When we first postponed, I wondered if June would ever come around. But it has, and we will finally be married. And when the day is upon us, all of the hardships of the postponement will be a distant memory. We will be married, and life goes on.
Did you consider postponing or have to postpone your wedding? What are some of the difficulties you faced? Please feel free to share your story, if you would like.