- No elbows on the table.
- No chewing like a cow. Keep your mouth closed.
- No reading at the table.
Anyway, I was reminded of my mom's list of dinner rules the other day.
L and I sat down to eat. We were chatting about something or other. Then he was checking his phone for sports scores. I checked a blog on my phone. The whole scene consisted of me in my world, and him in his world. Later, I reflected on this and realized that we do it a lot. Whether the excuse is that we need to read something important on our phones or we are glued to the television (shameful, I know), we have become so easily distracted. Sometimes we don't even eat together. That can't really be helped (due to work schedules), but we can always try to do better.
I don't think every meal needs to be filled with lively conversation. For example, breakfast is a quiet meal. Normally, people are still waking up, reading the paper, and/or running out the door. But dinner is different. It's the end of the day. We should have things to say to each other.
I remember years ago, L and I spent a weekend in San Diego. We were eating dinner at a nice restaurant. I spotted an older couple eating in complete silence. I tried not to stare, but I was curious. Did they always eat in silence? Were they in a fight? Or had they just run out of amusing things to say to each other? We'll never know.
All I know is that I don't want to be that couple...ever. So for now, I'm gonna be that wife who tells her husband to put his damn phone down while we eat. And I need to pay him the same courtesy.