L and I have been invited to a reception for a couple that were married in a private ceremony awhile back (more than two years ago). The husband is an acquaintance through work.
We received the invitation recently, and I have had mixed feelings about attending. Here is where things get strange. I don't want to sound like a judgmental tight ass, but it may come out that way anyway. Oh well, bear with me.
The husband in said couple really rubs me the wrong way. Need me to be more specific? He's cheated on his wife several times with call girls (Is that the proper term?) and told a lot of people about it.
I don't know how much the wife knows. Judging from the invitation, I assume she doesn't know anything.
I feel bad about the situation, and it really is none of my business. However, we are being asked to attend the renewing of their vows and their reception. It's still not really my business, but whether or not I attend is my business.
Here are my choices.
(a) Buy a gift and go to the event. Smile and get it over with. Their personal lives have nothing to do with me.
(b) Send a gift and don't go. He's a cheater, and I don't support cheaters.
(c) Send a gift with an anonymous card that says, "Your husband is a piece of shit. Better you know now. Thank me later."
In my heart, I pick choice "c", because I feel for this woman.
In reality, I have a feeling I may be forced to attend for professional reasons. I'm not going to lie, it makes me uncomfortable. I like to think of myself as a fairly open-minded person, but my blood boils when I hear stories like this.
What would you do?