As a teenager and early twenty-something I used to think it was amusing when older married guys stared at me when out with their wives. Now, I'm on the other side of that conversation, because I'm the wife. Somehow, it isn't as entertaining from this side.
To be fair, my husband doesn't look at other women constantly. However, I do catch him taking a sneak peek every now and then. I have toned down my reactions to this behavior significantly. When we first started dating, I would get really pissed off. One time I straight up asked L, "What the hell were you just looking at?" He denied any wrongdoing, and claimed he was simply "people watching".
Yeah, people watching, my ass.
I got really offended and made it all about me. I went on a tirade about how he should be paying more attention to ME, and that if I was that boring to him, we should just forget about any hope for a future. Blah blah blah.
But here we are today, and I married the guy. So I guess we found a way to work things out. Either that, or I'm a glutton for punishment.
Seriously though, unless your boyfriend/husband is asexual, he probably looks at other women. If you're like, "No way! Not my man!" Maybe he does it when you're not around?
These days I'm really good at being aloof. In all honesty, it doesn't really bother me as much anymore unless I am majorly PMS-ing. I might bitch him out if it's blatant, but L is a sly cat. He has perfected the "side glance" where he can look without moving his head. Ten points for effort, buddy.
A couple of times on principle alone I have asked to know why he would pay any attention to women who are begging to be stared at. (You all know the type.) It annoys me because I don't think he should give them the satisfaction. Have some pride in yourself, jeez.
Do you ever catch your spouse sneaking a peek? Do you get jealous or care? Have you perfected the role of the aloof wife?
P.S. Yes, I know women sneak peeks, too.