I briefly mentioned in yesterday's post that I had a doctor's appointment. I thought I'd meet with my OB-GYN to discuss our current fertility plan and get her ideas on where to go from here. I wanted to keep things rather casual and tried to walk into her office with little expectations, but really, what we are talking about is far from casual.
She could sense the urgency all over me, and suggested that we move forward with the process rather than wait another month or two trying naturally. I agreed. She recommended that I schedule a consultation with a reproductive endocrinologist (a fertility specialist).
Holy shit, we've been called up from the Minors. They needed a slightly sarcastic, slightly bitter, and slightly awesome couple to move up to the Fertility Major Leagues, and they picked us!
It's time for me to put my big girl panties on, and swing with the heavy hitters. Behind those fertility center walls are where miracles happen...
...for those that can afford miracles, of course.
So, it's a double edged sword. We are happy to move ahead in this process. We are also apprehensive about invasive procedures, drugs, hormones, and not to mention the COST.
Our insurance covers zero percent of fertility treatments, and the consultation with the reproductive endocrinologist alone is going to cost $350.
Add to that $800 for my blood work-up, and $160 for L's swimmers' analysis, and we are already $1300 in the hole before we've even begun. I'm not counting my surgeries as part of this, because it's just too overwhelming.
Simultaneously, we are dealing with an unexpected loss of income.
I know. It's ridiculous. But, I'm sharing all of this, because I want people to know how much it costs some couples to make a baby. L and I are going to try our hardest to make it work. The next year or two or five are going to be a struggle, but we think and hope we can gather the resources to do it.
What about the people that simply can't gather the resources? Do they somehow not "deserve" to have kids? Should they put it all on a credit card, and just hope for the best? I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around that. On a semi-related note, I try my hardest to never judge people for being in debt. I remind myself that I don't know why people are in the position they are in. I can't stand when the holier-than-thou camp gets all preachy about it.
Alright, getting off my soapbox now. Thanks for listening. Also, what would you do if you needed expensive fertility treatments and couldn't afford it? Would you go into debt? Would you wait? Would you just not have kids? With more and more couples facing fertility issues today, I'm interested to hear opinions on this.
*Edit: Would you foster? Would you adopt? My apologies for leaving those options off the list!!