Comments on The Less Than Domestic Goddess: Domestic Pressure and A Lightbulb Moment

2012-01-11T13:39:58.215-08:00

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I like to balance out my cooking (because I do lik...

2012-01-11T13:38:41.727-08:00

I like to balance out my cooking (because I do like to cook and more importantly eat) with the fact that I refuse to clean house more than 2x a month! Ha! Take that society! And sometimes I consider dish washing to be when they break against the floor or wall! :) Rock on girl!

Haha - your name for the cheesecakes totally crack...

2012-01-11T07:24:22.083-08:00

Haha - your name for the cheesecakes totally cracked me up.

I get how it feels to feel obligated to "domestic duties." I don't know that I made the conscious decision to learn them/put them in my routine, but I did somehow. Over time, I have really learned to enjoy cooking. It doesn't have to be fancy...I just like being able to put a healthy dinner on the table in the end...and that it tastes good!

I hear ya. I'm bad at cooking but I wish I was...

2012-01-10T18:54:31.451-08:00

I hear ya. I'm bad at cooking but I wish I was better. I'm decent at baking. Because I like eating cookies.

Could you make me some STFU cakes too? ;) Seriousl...

2012-01-09T23:17:55.032-08:00

Could you make me some STFU cakes too? ;)
Seriously Carly, I could have written this post, it really spoke to me. Over the holidays I was asked "do you cook?" multiple times, and when I reply "like what?" I got a "well at least your husband doesn't mind." Because y'know, I can squeeze it in while working full-time and going to grad school part-time. Piece of cake.

For most of my life it's been "get good grades" "study hard so you can go to a good school" and then when I went to Berkeley it was as if nothing could be worse than if I was staying at home taking care of my husband in the future. And now what? I'm bombarded by people looking down at me because I don't keep a tidy home or cook, not just by relatives, just random people!
What does the world want from us Carly??

@J. Darling: Oooh, cooking classes sound like a gr...

2012-01-09T15:58:25.216-08:00

@J. Darling: Oooh, cooking classes sound like a great idea! I've thought about signing up in the past, but they can be quite pricey. Maybe they are cheaper at a community center.

Oh! You might want to check out the local communit...

2012-01-06T08:46:27.446-08:00

Oh! You might want to check out the local community center for some great, cost effective cooking classes. Cooking classes make great dates too!

"The truth is that I actually want to learn h...

2012-01-06T08:40:13.344-08:00

"The truth is that I actually want to learn how to cook. I actually enjoy caring for my husband (sometimes), and fussing over him (most of the time)...I think it's pretty fabulous that the modern woman can be a little of everything: educated and ambitious with the ability to cook a mean turkey chili when she feels like it." COMPLETELY true. I think you're running into a cultural/generational gap with the aunts. My husband does most of the cooking for dinner, and I usually make sure we have a hot breakfast. Growing up, my mom was a stay-at-home mom for my first 12 years of life. So she did the cooking. Eventually, mom went back to work and dad picked up the slack, cooking whenever he could. Now, he cooks every dinner for my mom (and he's a GOOD cook)! It's awesome to hear you're able to take a step back from what you're hearing and feeling and examine "why is this important to me?" Very healthy thing to do! :)
You two have found/will find/will evolve into the lifestyle that works best for you guys. Life changes, and you are adaptable, with a variety of skills to help you succeed. Who cares if the house isn't in perfect order? You've lived! No one dies wishing they were cleaner.

Haha, "shut the fuck up cakes." Those ar...

2012-01-06T07:42:33.000-08:00

Haha, "shut the fuck up cakes." Those are the BEST kind of cakes. :)

LOVE this :) and laughed my ass off reading. :P Go...

2012-01-06T06:27:42.950-08:00

LOVE this :) and laughed my ass off reading. :P Good for you and by no means do I believe that you are any sort of the antiquated, domestic housewife because you occasionally like to bake such fabulous things as STFU cakes! :) In my honest opinion, a truly liberated woman is a woman who does what SHE desires; whether that is being a careerwoman, a stay at home wife/mom, caretaker, cooker, baker, doer, and any combination of the above :)

i'm in sort of the same boat. wishing you the ...

2012-01-05T23:41:45.525-08:00

i'm in sort of the same boat. wishing you the best with your cooking adventure :)

I have to read directions on how to make rice. I w...

2012-01-05T19:19:08.182-08:00

I have to read directions on how to make rice. I win. Ha. Teach me things your learn please and I will teach you. I've learned that the crock pot isn't as scary as I once thought, but that it is a huge pain to clean. And that's about it. Ha. Now go cook something Carly!

Learning to cook is one of my goals for 2012 as we...

2012-01-05T18:23:52.015-08:00

Learning to cook is one of my goals for 2012 as well.

I sorta am in the same boat in terms of growing up with a certain sort of disdain toward domesticity. I'm not really sure why that is... Laziness? Rejection of anything that I could bond with my mother with? Who knows... All I know is that if you want me to clean my apartment, someone has to supervise me or else I have panic attacks and cooking? I can make spaghetti. And hot dogs. I need to learn to cook something better than that...